Happiness has always been an enigma for me since I was a youth; I have always observed people being happy and merrymaking then within hours, days, or weeks later these same people became unhappy. I was reluctant to experience happiness because of observation like these and also from my own personal experiences, I had come to realize that happiness doesn’t last. I can recall as a youth going to fun places and doing fun things, yet in that very moment of merrymaking, I was mentally counting down the end to this happy moment. The transient (short live) nature of happiness had left a profound effect on my life, I couldn’t understand why people go through so much trouble to attain happiness when its life span is so short. We have all experienced happiness to some degree at some period in our lives, even the downtrodden must have experienced a glimmer of happiness. The problem I have with happiness is not its attainability, but rather its sustainability that bothers me; I have yet to meet anyone who has figure out a way to sustain this transient experience called happiness. However, my view on happiness took a turn once I became more self-actualized.
After over a decade of unlearning, self-searching, and meditating, it had become clear to me that I had been wrong about the essence of happiness. It is not happiness that comes and go, as I used to though; it is our consciousness ( and subconsciousness) that suppress and revive happiness base on the events that life presents to us. Consciousness suppresses (buries) happiness when we’re experiencing troubling events and revive (resurrect )it when these events have a pass and more agreeable events present themselves. Happiness is an unwelcoming experience to the troubled mind, the troubled mind refuses to welcome happiness while it is facing events in life that are threatening to its existence, wants, or needs. Though it seems as if as soon as trouble appears happiness disappears, this is not the case. Somewhere along our journey as humans, we’ve developed a binary consciousness that programmed us to choose between contradictory experiences. Our minds are not programmed to have two contradictory experiences simultaneously, such as being happy and being troubled; it has to choose to suppress one while it faces the other.
We’ve been taught that everything has a reason so it is ingrained in us to look for a reason to be happy, such as; being in a new relationship, getting a new car, getting a new house, getting a new job, etc. However, true happiness has no reason, when we learn to be happy for no reason that is when we will be able to sustain our happiness. True happiness comes from “no-where, it goes no-where and it’s always now-here” waiting to be appreciated.